“I’m not spiritual enough to share.” “I don’t play well with others.” Those are words I used to say to explain why polyamory wasn’t something I’d consider exploring. Then, one day, a man I had matched with on 2 different dating apps asked the question that would shift my perspective. He asked, “Are you open…
We tend to think of wholeness as something pristine.Unbroken. Seamless. Unchanged. But the women I work with are not seamless.We are not untouched. We are shaped. Shattered. Re-forged. We are made of moments that cut… edges that taught us where to soften, fractures that became fault lines of discernment. We are not “healed” in the…
We tend to think of betrayal as something loud. Obvious. A breaking of trust that’s clear and dramatic. A moment of, “someone else did something to us”. But the most persistent betrayals, the ones that drain us slowly and oh so painfully, are often quiet. They happen internally. Repeatedly. Without pause or clear attention. Self-betrayal…
Each day follows the same shape. There are people who need you. Tasks that belong to you. A running list that doesn’t get completed so much as extended. Responsibility is met, but nothing clears. What you finish is replaced by what appears next. “Holding it together” looks like managing a constant stream of details while…
Every morning, ask yourself, “Am I living the life I aspire to or the one I’ve settle on for now?” There is no right or wrong answer to the question and you answer will vary from day to day. Some days you may want to be living where you’ve “settled” and other days you’ll be…
Bucket lists are for the dying ~ A Torch List is for the Vibrantly Alive The term “Bucket List” always disturbed me. There’s an automatic association to death that gives us the excuse to put things off until “one day”, before you kick the bucket. You don’t have to wait for a dramatic moment of…
The most ridiculous and condescending question that gets asked all the freaking time: “What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?” Of course I know I can fail. If I never fail at anything, that means I’m not attempting anything new. There’s nothing in this world that anyone can do that doesn’t have…
We’re hyper connected these days. Technology brings our words closer and makes it easier to stay connected to what’s happening in the lives of the people we know BUT we seem to be less involved in those happenings. When our words are connected by not our voices and body language, we miss out on huge…
Soul searchingResearching new ways to do thingsSeeking out new perspectives All good uses of time. But at some point, they stop being exploration and start becoming a holding pattern. How much of what you’ve discovered are you actually living?How much time are you spending getting ready to be ready, instead of choosing how you want…
